Monday, June 1, 2009
perplexed
I have a dilemna. My abuela (grandma) is old and shouldn't be living be herself anymore. We just got back from my sister's wedding and when I dropped her off at her apartment it was so sad. She can't properly care for herself. I have neglected abuela for so long with the belief that someone else should take care it and after all, I have my own family to care for. But now, I think that I have some responsibility and something needs to be done. My good friend's grandmother lives with them and I admire that she and her family have been selfless as to let that happen. But, there's a huge difference...her grandma drives, speaks English, has her wits about her. I can't say the same for Abuela, who needs to be reminded to shower. I live far away from anything, if I bring her to my house, she wouldn't even have the option to walk somewhere (even though anymore she doesn't leave her house). My husband is not against bringing her to our house, but we aren't sure it would work. I think being around the kids would be beneficial to her health. What would you do?
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Wow. While I admire your openness to all the possibilities, I have to say that bringing her to your house, while admirable, would probably not be in her best interest. First of all, you don't have a bedroom on the main floor, so she's got to negotiate stairs. And, even if you turned the study into a room, she'd have to use the stairs to take a shower, etc. Plus, no one will be there during the day to take care of her. So, no kids around during the day anyway.
ReplyDeleteThere have got to be other options...
update: she doesn't want to leave...not even for a weekend...so, I guess she made her decision...and mine. I can't feel guilty if she's happy, right?
ReplyDeletebingo! It's the thought that counts. It really does.
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